Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! Thank you everyone who left lovely messages this week for my birthday! I had a wonderful day and will continue the celebration this weekend.

Here’s your tip!
Unscrewing another burlesque performer’s light bulb doesn’t make yours shine brighter. It just makes the whole world a little darker.

Tearing someone down does not make you a better performer; it diminishes our entire community. We’re all trying to create great entertainment with a very niche art. The more of us support our fellow burlesquers, the better we can accomplish that. Remember, a rising tide lifts all strippers*.

For more uplifting quotes and burlesque philosophy like this follow The Great Burlesque Exposition on Instagram: @burl.expo

*Thanks to Lili VonSchtupp for the great aphorism.

M2These writings and other creative projects are supported by my Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

Published in: on 21 February 2020 at 9:58 am  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Some previous tips have given you advice about chocolate, champagne, and flowers, also a quote about love love. Today’s tip is another quote, a timeless piece of advice.

If you would be loved, love and be lovable.
–Benjamin Franklin, 1755

May you love and be loved every day of the year.

M2These writings and other creative projects are supported by my Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

Published in: on 14 February 2020 at 1:06 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! Here’s your tip!

“I don’t know” is an acceptable answer.

As teachers we are “the expert” and have a certain authority. Sometimes a student asks a question and the teacher doesn’t have the answer. It can be hard to give up that authority and admit that you’re not the expert after all.

There is nothing wrong with that! It is so much better to say you don’t have the answer instead of guessing or making something up (I’ve seen it happen!)

A gentleman-scholar of my acquaintance (may his memory be a blessing) used to say “Non scio sed invenire possum” — Latin for “I don’t know, but I can look it up”*.

You are doing your job as an educator if you say “That’s a really good question. I don’t know. Let me do some research/check with someone/try it out/&c. and get back to you.” And then make sure to get back to them!

* Yes, fellow Classicists, I would have used nescio too, but I’m quoting someone whose specialty was Icelandic literature, not Latin.

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Published in: on 7 February 2020 at 3:24 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! Here’s your tip!

Before twirling, make sure your tassels are hanging freely.

Sometimes, after being curled up in your bra, tassels can get stuck to a stray bit of adhesive near the edge of your pastie, caught on a rhinestone or other bit of decoration, or just sweat-glued to your skin. Give them a little shake or smooth them out (perhaps with a surreptitious, gentle yank) just before you start your twirl.

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Published in: on 31 January 2020 at 11:00 am  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! I’m pleased to say that the Burlesque Deck is fully funded! Thank you, if you were one of those who help raise it up. You can still order one until Monday and you’ll still get a free apllication to The Great Burlesque Expo.

This Sunday I’ll be performing at Taste O’ Burlesque with an act many of you have never seen! Don’t miss this rare opportunity.

And now for your tip…

Use the power of the personal invitation.

Sure, it’s easy these days to send out mass invites to come to your show, apply to your festival, what have you — and it’s just as easy to ignore those invites. Taking the time to drop a note to someone shows you are actually interested in them and their presence.

M2These writings and other creative projects are supported by my Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

Published in: on 24 January 2020 at 3:51 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! I’m in a philosophical mood and so is your tip…

A rising tide lifts all boats.

Helping your fellow performers to succeed helps all of us. Build each other up instead of knocking down. We can all win together. Burlesque is a niche art and we need to work together to keep it growing and thriving.

Here’s one way to do that…

Lili VonSchtupp, aka Boobdini the Vagician, has created The Burlesque Deck, a deck of pin-up playing cards with 54 gorgeous photos of burlesque performers. It can also be used for magic! The deck is currently only available via Kickstarter and only until January 27th. The project needs to raise $24,000 to go forward and Kickstarter is an all or nothing deal. If The Burlesque Deck is funded, people outside the burlesque enclave will see these fabulous photos and our reach gets a little wider.

Now here’s where the helping each other out part comes in. The Great Burlesque Expo is waiving the application fee for anyone who backs The Burlesque Deck and sends them proof.

You apply to The Expo for free, The Burlesque Deck becomes a reality (and introduce more people to burlesque), and you get the warm, fuzzy feeling of having helped elevate burlesque. Everybody wins.

What else can we do to lift up the world of burlesque?

M2These writings and other creative projects are supported by my Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

Published in: on 17 January 2020 at 3:41 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! Don’t forget to vote in my poll! Here’s your tip:

Spread positivity.

Let’s face it, people love to complain and share bad news. With social media it’s even easier to spread the word. People praise less publicly and that should change.

For example, when someone goes to a burlesque show and has a good time, they *might* go up to their favorite performer after the show and tell them that they enjoyed the show. And that’s usually it. However, if they didn’t like the show, they’ll jump on their favorite platform and bitch about it*. And then other people will probably pile on and the trashing will continue. It’s so much more fun to knock down than build up! This can get rather toxic very quickly. Businesses and people have been ruined by this vicious behavior.

So, let’s reverse the trend. If you like something, say something. Write a review, leave a high rating, tell people. Don’t just keep it to yourself or tell that one friend. Be public about your pleasure. When someone else posts about something they liked, share it. The world is such a negative place, let’s not add more to it.

M2These writings and other creative projects are supported by my Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

* I’m not talking about well-thought out critique or a reasoned negative review — that’s a different topic. This is just about trash-talk.

Published in: on 10 January 2020 at 3:12 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Happy New Year!

Dear Constant Reader,

I hope 2020 is treating you well!

I’m often asked if there’s a place you can find all my Friday Tips and until now, the best way was to search on the tag “tips”, which wasn’t so helpful if you were looking for a specific tip. Now you can find all my Friday Tips right here in a helpful chronological list. Just click the tip and you’ll go to the original post.

I’d like to create some tutorials! Please pick your favorite on this little poll.


Next week I’ll announce the winner.

M2These writings and other creative projects are supported by my Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

Published in: on 6 January 2020 at 2:54 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! It’s the first tip of 2020!

If you want to keep it, back it up.

They say nothing ever goes away on the Internet, but that doesn’t mean you can always find what you want. Web sites vanish, periodicals cease publication, social media accounts are vulnerable to censorship. If you want to keep articles, photos, videos, &c., store it where you have some control over it.

Once your data is safely in your hands, get it backed up and regularly saved. Storage is really cheap these days! Whether you use a cloud-based service or a physical hard drive is up to you. I use both, depending on the situation, set up with automatic backups, so I don’t have to remember to take care of it. If something crashes, recovery will be so much easier!

M2These writings and other creative projects are supported by my Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

Published in: on 3 January 2020 at 3:26 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! I hope you’ve been having a lovely time, however you chose to celebrate this season. This is your last tip of 2019! Thank you so much for reading my humble missives this year.

Secure your bead fringe.

A lot of bead fringe is strung on a single long thread, so when you cut it to the right length, the beads fall off the end. And keep falling off…

I like to sacrifice one strand of fringe to get a piece of thread long enough to tie a knot. Tie a tight knot right up against the next bead and then dab some glue on the knot for extra security. Then I grab a needle and take a few stitches with the thread into the apron of the fringe and knot it again.

If you would like a tutorial on making your own beaded fringe (which is much more secure than commercial fringe), leave a comment here!

Your next tip will be next year! If I don’t write before then, have a wonderful New Year’s celebration!

M2Like this costuming tip? There are lots more in Miss Mina Murray’s Little Book of Burlesque Costuming.

These writings and other creative projects are supported by my Patrons. Thank you so much! To become a Patron, go to my Patreon page. Or you can just tip me if you liked this.

Published in: on 27 December 2019 at 3:09 pm  Leave a Comment  
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