Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! Today’s tip continues the series on dressing room and backstage etiquette:

Respect other’s backstage rituals.

People prepare for the stage differently. Some are social and chatty. Some are quiet and meditative. Some listen to their music. Some stretch. Some work on costuming or other handwork. Some need to keep moving. Whatever you need to do to get ready for your performance is fine, as long as it doesn’t encroach on someone else’s needs.

So, wear your headphones. Keep the conversation to a moderate level. Find some space out of the way. Explain your needs in a clear and polite way. Everyone should be able to get their energy up and focused in their own way so you all can have the best show possible.

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Published in: on 7 July 2017 at 2:39 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! A happy Independence Day weekend for my US readers! I’m continuing with tips on home to be the sort of person with whom people love to share a dressing room. Here’s the latest:

If you’re going to use hairspray, loose glitter, spray-on stockings, &c, ask permission of the other inhabitants of the dressing room.

If your dressing roommates are okay with it, spray or dust yourself pointing away from people, costumes, and food. If someone has an issue, check if there’s some other place you can take care of this part of your beauty ritual.

M2Like this tip? There are lots more in Miss Mina Murray’s Little Book of Better Burlesque.

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Published in: on 30 June 2017 at 12:22 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Friday Tip

Dear Constant Reader,

Happy Friday! Here’s your tip:

Keep your dressing room footprint small.

Most dressing rooms are not large or lavishly appointed (oh, I could tell you dressing room horror stories) and a lot of people need to use them. You don’t want to take up more than your fair share of space.

Keep your stuff (make up, costume, hair tools, &c.) compact and under control, rather than sprawling all over. Not only does it make you a more pleasant person with whom to share a dressing room, it keeps your things from getting lost, damaged, or accidentally appropriated. Also, you’re ready to leave more quickly at the end of the night, if you re-pack as you go.

If there’s somewhere else you can hang out if you’re not actively getting ready, you should leave the dressing room for those who currently need it. If not, be as out of the way as possible, especially keeping clear of those performers who are going to come racing in for a fast change. If you’re one of those, warn everyone in advance. Not only will people stay out of your way, you’ll probably even get some offers of help.

M2Like this tip? There are lots more in Miss Mina Murray’s Little Book of Better Burlesque.

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Published in: on 23 June 2017 at 2:26 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Bravery and Civility

Dear Constant Reader,

A couple of weeks ago Maggie McMuffin was traveling back to Seattle from New York with a lay-over in Boston. It was at our own Logan Airport that a JetBlue employee told her that she couldn’t board the plane unless she changed her clothes. Apparently the pilot thought that Maggie’s shorts (by J. Von Stratton) were “lewd, obscene, or patently offensive”, which is what JetBlue’s Contract of Carriage forbids (and all it has to say on how passengers dress). This was despite the fact that a JetBlue pilot had just let her fly in the same outfit from New York to Boston without problem.

But I’m not actually here to debate whether what she was wearing was appropriate or not. You can judge for yourself. But I don’t want to hear your opinion. This isn’t about that.

It’s about Maggie’s bravery. Her story went viral. It was reported in several countries, she was interviewed by local news stations, it was hot on social media, it was even trending on Facebook’s news feed.

That means a lot of people saw her story and felt the need to express their opinions. And those opinions were not always kind or polite. It’s so easy to be cruel to someone you only see on the internet. After all, it’s not like they’re a real person with feelings and complexity. They’re just some pixels to judge and mock and feel superior to.

Thousands of people said horrible things about Maggie without knowing her or caring that she’s kind and funny or that she can do impressively big hair or that she likes clowning or that she recently had a major upheaval in her life. They just saw a target.

By taking her story public and pushing it to go viral, she knew this would happen. And she did it anyway. That’s brave. She shouldn’t have to endure insulting commentary on her body, her intelligence, her morals, &c. to tell her story about feeling discriminated against because of how she was dressed. But that’s the reality today. It’s sad.

So, please, Gentle Readers, when you see a story on the internet and you feel compelled to comment, stop for a moment and think before you write. Does the entire world really need to know your opinion? Can you express it clearly and without attacking anyone? Do you need to use insults or foul language to make your point?

Just a little civility, my friends, would make the world a much better place.

And, Maggie, thanks for fighting against arbitrary discrimination. You are a hero in shorts.

M2

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